Need I say more?! It only usually takes the one word with a roll of the eyes to have woman everywhere nodding in agreement. My husband drives me a little bonkers a whole lot of the time! Maybe it's the OCD coming out in me again but WHY OH WHY do they throw the empty toilet rolls NEXT to the bin in the bathroom instead of in it. Likewise with the dirty washing, wet towels . . . you get the picture. For some reason my husband thinks these items belong next to or on top of the laundry basket instead of in it. How hard is it to lift a lid. Really? I could go on and on and on . . . but I won't because I'll let you have your own little moans at the end! Hehe.
Ok, but seriously, I think sometimes we woman neglect to ask our husbands how they are coping with this whole infertility rollarcoaster. I know I am guilty of it myself and it wasn't until he started suffering from anxiety attacks that it occurred to me that perhaps he wasn't finding it quite so easy as I had assumed. For some reason I always thought he was ok with it taking ages and the wait and impatience wasn't affecting him. After all, I'm the one with the problem and being poked and prodded . . . and he didn't even want to try for a baby when I decided I was ready. I had been ready the year prior to start a family but after much discussion (discussion = argueing) I was bribed with a kitten and gave in. The converastion went something like 'If you wait another year I'll let you get a kitten?' Me - 'Ok!' Haha. Anyway, I have since learnt that it IS hard for them but they don't want to admit it because they want to be strong for us. My husband has been amazingly supportive. Sure, his eyes do tend to glaze over when I come home and tell him all the amazing new remedies I have discovered to cure our infertility problems but in reality we couldn't go through this without our men by our sides, wiping away our tears and offering so much positive support and guidance. But don't forget to ask them how they are every once in awhile and be there for HIM. I'm sure you may be surprised by the confession when you do take the time to turn the spotlight back around. Go and give you man a BIG HUG right now and tell him how much you love him.
And then, moan about how they don't pick up the empty toilet rolls, take out the empty beer bottles and really, how bloody hard is it to put the washing IN the washing basket!!! Aaaaagggghhhh! Men!
Q of the day - What does your hubby do that drives you bonkers?
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ReplyDeleteleaves ALL the cupboard doors open after finding that miraculous come out of nowhere cup. (THE cup that has been in the same spot for the last 6 years)And THEN bitches and moans when he has hit his head on the doors. Athena
Haidee I felt like I was reading our own situation then...I sort of 'pestered' my hubby for kids for ages but wanted to wait until he was ready, when he finally did want to give it a go and we found we were infertile I felt that it didn't affect him as much because he could have waited longer whereas I felt I had already been waiting for years, but now 18months later I have realised that it has affected him and how patient he has been with all of my ups and downs!It really is a relationship tester and I think if you can get through it and still have some good times along the way and some laughs then it's all good. Oh and annoying man habit....not emptying his pockets before throwing them in the wash basket!(and he weras cargo pants with about 10 pockets with things in every one of them!hehe)
ReplyDeleteOMG! Yes, the coins and paper in the pockets thing! Drives me nuts too!
ReplyDeletetotally agree - we need to remember our men are feeling the emotional rollercoaster as much as we are even if they're not the one with the problem. Love your blogs Haidee
ReplyDeleteMy hubby puts the empty toilet rolls back on the shelf with the cosmetics and things instead of in the bin, even though the bin has no lid and you can literally reach it if you're sitting on the toilet...don't get me started, my blood pressure's going up already!
ReplyDeleteHahaha yes yes and yes - toilet rolls on the floor next to the toilet, clothes on the floor next to the open clothes basket and the other thing that really annoys me is empty wrappers etc left on the kitchen bench when there is a bin under the bench, its like "are these here to regenerate or something" lol.
ReplyDelete:-) Karen Abraham.
Seems the toilet roll thing is a universal man thing! Haha. I don't know WHY it's so hard for them! Oh well, I guess we just have to live with it! Wish you could train a man like you can a dog . . . ;-)
ReplyDeleteMy man takes the loo roll one step further!...not only will he leave the empty toilet roll ON the roll holder, he will grab enough paper from a new roll for himself & leave the new roll on the new-roll-holder thingy next to the loo! Not to mention the massive wad of paper he will actually use (enough that wont flush properly!)...its like he wraps up his whole hand mummy-style lol!
ReplyDeleteDitto on the washing etc...its like men literally can't see mess...they just walk right past/over anything!
Oh you poor ladies, my man actually does take the loo roll to the rubish & he gets the washing into the basket. :-). He doesnt do much cooking or cleaning though, but does help out when he sees that I am a bit down. He has been an amazing support to me on our TTC journey - looked up at him during our embryo transfer and he had a wee tear in his eyes. When we got BFN and I cried myself to sleep he just lay there next to me holding me telling me its ok, you did all you could do its not your fault. I love you no matter what. Awesome to have his support - and yes you just got to remember to ask him/them that they are ok too.
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