Wednesday, July 14, 2010


I went into a baby shop the other day and I guess it would be a bit like a man going into a lingerie shop to buy lingerie for his wife. I'm sure I am not the only one who feels like they are about to get kicked out for being an imposter when they walk into a baby store. You nervously look around to see if anyone has noticed this non-pregnant, childless woman in the store looking a tad lost and confused and completely out of their depth! 

We went into the Baby Factory when we were doing our second IVF cycle as we wanted to send a message out to the universe that we were ready for this. I wanted to buy a little outfit as a reminder of what the end goal was - how hard could it be? Man, we had no idea! 00? 000? 0000? Huh?! Initially we took up an outfit and just before parting with my cash I thought I had better ask if it was the standard newborn size. My husband had held it up and studied it and announced that that looked about the size of a baby (I think perhaps he was hoping to escape in a hurry!) The lady looked at me and was like 'No, that's for a premature baby' I was like, 'Oh, so what is the normal size for a newborn baby?' (while hubby looked at me and was like 'You have to push out something even bigger than that?!') and I swear she almost rolled her eyes at me like I was the only woman in the world who didn't understand the intricacies of baby clothing sizes. Well, I'm sorry but when you're infertile going into a shop full of teeny tiny adorable little clothes is not a good place to hang out and be reminded of what you're missing out on. But at the same time it's tempting, a bit like the local candy store where you know it isn't good for you but you can't help but admire and drool and wish. I can't wait till the day that I can go into a baby shop and be just another pregnant woman smug in the knowledge that I do know what I am doing. But then again, I probably still won't have a clue! Ask me about infertility and I can tell you anything and everything but actual babies? Uh, uh! No idea! But that's a whole other blog post for another time!


  1. So True haidee!I had to buy a baby shower present the other day and felt very very conspicuous!xx Jane

  2. It's so true Haidee! I always feel really unwelcomed in baby shops!
    It's like the women in those shops can sense infertility, and I always feel at any moment they are going to come over and ask me what the hell am I doing there and ask me to leave. Mxx

  3. Even now that Charlie is 10 months old I STILL have no idea what I'm doing in baby clothing stores!
    The infertility messes with your brain...we try so hard to cram as much treatment knowledge in there that nothing else ever sticks...

    Thats my excuse, and I'm sticking to it!