Sunday, February 27, 2011


Need I say more? I'm heartbroken for a dear friend who was once again unsuccessful in her IVF attempt. Why, why, why?! I don't understand it. Many of my good friends are women I have met through the infertility forums I frequent and they are the most wonderful women, who would make the most wonderful mothers. It just doesn't seem fair that it is such a struggle to achieve something that the majority of the world takes for granted. My thoughts and love are with all of you who are still struggling to make your dreams come true and my heart especially goes out to my friend and her husband as you grieve tonight. I'm so sorry honey and if I could come over there to wipe away your tears I would be there in a heartbeat. I know this little vent probably doesn't help you but I remember you having a vent on my behalf when my first IVF didn't work and although you had written that your husband had told you that it wouldn't help, it did help to know that there were others who understood my pain. I know I'm pregnant now but I will never forget the 3 years of agony it took to get here and I will be by your side (among others) until you all succeed and get to hold your beautiful bundles in your arms. xox


  1. I often wonder about being on the "other side" and still not forgetting the pain of infertility. Thanks so much for showing that you haven't forgotten those still in the trenches as well as your desire for all of us to have our dreams come to fruition.

  2. I'm right there with you. It's so hard to watch others struggle with IF, especially because it wasn't so long ago we were feeling that. I feel grateful everyday for where I'm at now, but I still tear up thinking about our struggle to get here.

  3. I'm so sorry for your friend :( I know how hard it is to continually be let down each month when AF arrives. Although we haven't tried IVF, we have been TTC for 7 years with no luck. I pray your friend and her husband will find their luck very soon. In the meantime, my heart goes out to them and all suffering from the nightmare that is IF. I will say a prayer for everyone of them tonight.

  4. You're right. It's just not fair. So many of these people would make wonderful parents, yet they are robbed of the chance. So much heartbreak and loss.

  5. Hey Haidee, I've just started following your blog & enjoy reading your posts you seem interesting. Hop you get over the tummy bug soon and start to feel better.

    My partner and I have been TTC for 3 years now. Last year we were told we required IVF with ICSI and were put on wating list. Then spontaneously conceived in June 2010 that ended is miscarriage (Blight Ovum. We started our 1st cycle in Jan 11, This week I had egg collection and from the 17 that were retrieved only 7 were suitable for ICSI. Then this morning I was told that none fertilised over night. We will try for a new cycle in 2 months. It is so devasting.
    What doesn't kill us will only make us stronger!