I have a dilemma. The HG and I had a big discussion about boy's names the other night and narrowed it down to two. If the baby is a boy we decided we would wait until he is born and then decide which name suits him better once we see him. My dilemma is that this morning on one of the forums I post on, a lady came on and announced the birth of her son and named him the same name that we had chosen (we have the two but favour one of them more). Is it wrong of me to still use that name since we had decided on it before seeing her announcement? She isn't a hugely regular poster so not sure if she will even be around posting much by the time it gets to my turn . . . yikes! Who knew choosing a baby name could be filled with so many obstacles!
I wouldnt worry - your going to choose the same name as someone else no matter what. As long as its not a close friend or family or someone you see all the time it wont matter.
ReplyDeleteHaidee i think it would be fine to use the name if thats the one you choose. It is so hard being the last one to have a baby. All the names i have ever liked have been used and i just think to myself oh well, whats the likely hood of me actually ever seeing that person and think if i want it its my choice. Esp with cousins etc, I very rarely see any of them so if they have a kid with the same name who cares. You have to name your child with something that means something to you, and so be it if its the same as someone else.
ReplyDeleteyou name your baby whatever YOU want to name him/her... don't worry that other people on the internet or IRL may have kids with the same name - it's your choice... good luck - I'm 35 weeks pregnant, and we haven't even got a short list yet *sigh*
ReplyDeleteMy baby name rule is that I will only give up a name for someone who is a family member or close friend.
ReplyDeleteSomeone you interact with on the internet isn't close enough to give up a name you love! :)
Hey hunni,
ReplyDeleteIf you have had your heart set on it, who cares I would use it, no matter what name you pick you are always going to find someone with the same namee..
Love Kat xx
I wouldn't worry about it. Go with the name y'all like best it doesn't matter what others have chosen imop. I bet it's a great name!
ReplyDeleteHmm tricky!My parents were going to call me Natalie, right up until 3 days before I was born and then some friends of theirs had their daughter and called her Natalie!
ReplyDeleteIt's always going to be hard though, especially with such a large network of other pregnant women through the forums and blogging, to not have that happen!
Maybe just wait until closer to the time, and see how you still feel about that name, if you still really want it then go for it! Chances are the woman that has also called her son the name, isn't the first one either!You could always just tell her you had always planned on that name too, I'm sure it happens a lot!Just go for what you're happy with love xxx
In our forum, there are three Zoe's, and one other was born on the same day as my girl! I totally wouldnt worry, it doesnt bother me in the slightest.
ReplyDeleteIf you end up choosing the same name as your friends - tell them that you had already chosen the name first but not announced it. And coincidences are very auspicious - perhaps the kids will grow up to be best friends!
ReplyDeleteI agree with the others. Unless it is someone in your family or a really really close friend, you don't need to worry about duplicating names. BTW, I have given you an award on my blog! Check it out!
ReplyDeleteUse the name!!! If it was a close friend or family member that would be another thing, but think about it: if it weren't so easy to connect online would you know the volumne of expecting people you do now? There's bound to be name overlap! And are you likely to know this person for years and years to come when having a child with the same name might be confusing?
ReplyDeleteSomeone I know online used the same girl's name we chose in 2006. But it's my grandmother's name, so I think I'm still allowed to use it. ;-)
I totally think that you should use the name anyway!! I think that if you start to eliminate names from all kinds of random acquaintances you'll end up with no names left to choose from!! And it's really only a "problem" if the child is someone that you'll see on a regular basis for the rest of your lives... The name we've chosen for a girl is the same name that a two semi-friends' daughters' have, but in the end I'm not willing to give up the name forever for someone that might not even be in my life in a year...
ReplyDeleteThanks for all your input ladies! We have decided to use the name regardless if that's the one we want. I'm still thinking about it though, keeps me awake at night! As does the nursery decorating in my head. So many things to think about.
ReplyDeleteI think to make yourself feel better you should PM the lady if that's possible and let her know you love the name and that you're probably going to use it yourself, like "what a coincidence, that's the name we've chosen too!". Then you can tell your story about having the names narrowed down for ages...and how wonderful it is that you get to put a name to use after waiting to be pregnant for so long! You'll probably never meet her so I think it will just give you two something in common.
ReplyDeleteOf course you should still use the name! I have to admit, unless I would end up alienating a family member, I would use any name! I have two cousins named Jacob and we have multiple Ryans. It's the name you're giving your baby for all his life. Use the one you love!!
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