I hate food at the moment. I seem to spend so much of my time occupied with thoughts of what I can possibly stomach to eat. The trouble is I crave something one day and then vomit it up and then can't stand the thought of it again. I seem to be going off everything and I am really struggling to think of food items that I can eat (especially for lunches at work). It used to be so easy to pop out for a nice filled roll or something equally healthy but you don't realise how few options you have until you aren't allowed things and I don't want to live on a diet of pies and cheeseburgers (ugh!). I just can't handle the thought of food right now whatsoever. And I don't want to be at work as for some reason my work environment really increases my morning sickness and I spend all 5 days of the working week feeling absolutely miserable. Of course I am thrilled to be pregnant but I am just so drained. Does it make sense to be happy and miserable at the same time?
MY JOURNEY THROUGH INFERTILITY TO CONCEPTION AND MOTHERHOOD
Monday, November 29, 2010
Friday, November 26, 2010
FINDING OUT THE SEX
This has been the topic of much debate in my household for the last several weeks and even before we found out we were pregnant. The HG and I have very different views and have been at a loggerheads over the decision. He recently said he would go with whatever I decided I wanted to do but when I told him I wanted a surprise I could see the heartbreak written all over his face - he REALLY wants to find out. So I have changed my mind. Why? Well, the HG has been amazing throughout the last three years. He has been willing to do whatever I wanted in terms of treatment. If I told him he had to take Menevit tablets, he took them. He looked after me after my operations, after egg collections, when I cried and felt like my world was crashing down around me. And that's just in regards to the infertility. I can't even begin to tell you how wonderful he was when my mum died.
At the time we had been together for all of about two weeks. We had been hanging out as friends for about 4 weeks prior (taking things really slow given the circumstances) and he used to pick me up from the hospital and take me to his house and cook me a homecooked meal just so I wasn't eating hospital food all the time, even though the hospital was well out of the way from where he lived. At the time I felt like I was practically living at the hospital. When mum was admitted for the last time we had no idea she wouldn't be coming home at all but as things deteriorated and then she was moved to a hospice it became apparent we weren't going to have a miracle. The HG could have run the other direction - too many complications with this girl. But nope. He was amazing. When he got electrocuted (yep, he's got nine lives this one!) and was in the hospital hooked up on heart monitors just down the hall from my mum's cancer ward he didn't tell me because he didn't want to worry me. He was totally thrown in the deep end with my family, visiting the hospice while mum was on her death bed just so I could introduce him and then holding my hand throughout the funeral preparations and beyond. This is a man who had never met my family prior to this and had been in a realtionship with me for all of 2 weeks.
My mum died in July and by September he had proposed.
So, I have decided it is time for me to give something back and if he desperately wants to find out the sex of our baby at the 20 week scan (given that bubs decides to share!) so he feels he can bond and do up the nursery to his liking (he's a painter and decorator by trade and has a million ideas for a nursery) then so be it. After all, he has let me choose the names! But those dear bloggies, will remain a secret! Gotta have at least ONE surprise!
Thursday, November 25, 2010
PIKE RIVER MINERS
I realise that this has nothing to do with infertility but I have been following this story for the last few days and my heart breaks for the families and loved ones of the 29 miners who have been lost. I just felt the need to acknowledge this very sad day in NZ history. The news site Stuff summed it up the best and I have copied and pasted an extract from todays article below:
(Copied direct from here)
We said a prayer. We shed a tear. Last night hearts ached.
It will be the same today. Tomorrow . Next week. Next month ...
We will pray for 29 men who went to work and did not come home. Mates – sons, fathers, uncles, grandads – Coasters who lay together inside that foreboding chamber in the Paparoas. Pike River mine.
Men who we had not kissed, cuddled, argued or laughed with for almost a week.
Men who fate shut the door on when they merely went to work to earn a living.
They traipsed in on Friday not knowing there would be no Saturday, no Sunday, no Monday.
Now, because of the cruel hand dealt on a Wednesday, there will be no tomorrow.
One mine explosion – most likely unsurvivable. But we clung to hope. Double up – two explosions – a greater power holds the ace hand.
Twice within a week, nature's response has been devastating. Toxic gases, concussion, life-sapping forces, probably flame – certainly extreme temperatures were visited on the workforce of Pike River. At first, certainly in the first few days, for many right up until yesterday, there was hope that at least some would survive. That they would emerge to mourn with us the fate that had befallen workmates.
Then, yesterday afternoon, six days on, no time to wonder any more. Another explosion. Maybe bigger than the first. That was the end.
So we prayed, we cried for 29 men, most we didn't know. Some we had not seen for too long. No chance of righting that now.
For families who have gone through another kind of hell over the past week. Who have clung to each other and that innate trait we all need now – hope.
Families who were caught up in the web of some macabre pantomime – twice a day gathering to learn more about coalmining than they need to, who learnt nothing really from officialdom and who each day saw the sun sink lower. These are heartbroken people. And they are angry. Some may not even be sure who they are angry with, but they have just experienced disaster management by committee. No-one deserves that.
When the sun shone five days in a row on the Coast this week it was casting light on a slice of New Zealand which has suffered too many days like this: Brunner, Strongman, Cave Creek. Too many.
Stoic. Strong. Fighters. Friendly. That's what they say about Coasters. They don't know the half of it. But now they need all this and more.
We prayed for a man New Zealand has only known for a few days – Peter Whittall, a cuddly bear who has spent most of his life below ground. A man who has quietly led men and managed mines. A big man with a broken heart. Peter hired most of them, inspired all of them it seems. How did he cope with the weight of the past week on his shoulders? He stood in front of those families – and note that he stood alone – and heavy of heart told them that all those dreams that the impossible might happen, were gone.
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
103 FOLLOWERS!
Wow, how did that sneak past me? Thank you so much for embracing my blog and following me on my journey to pregnancy and now beyond. I now have 103 followers and 208 FB blog fans! I have been overwhelmed by the support and love that has been shown to me since I started blogging in May and I can't thank you enough! I can only hope that those of you who are still on the journey to that elusive BFP don't have too much longer to wait - sending hugs and hope to you all!
It's still hard to believe I have crossed that line into pregnancy and have only 4 or so more weeks to endure before I enter the second trimester. I can't wait to cross that threshold now. To be honest I am actually pretty relaxed. I know that it's not a given that I am on the home run yet and we are still in the danger zone but I looked up some stats (always researching!) and according to those given my age and the fact we heard a healthy heartbeat and I have had no bleeding whatsoever, our risk of miscarriage has now dropped to about 4% so I have chosen to forget about what could go wrong and embrace it with thoughts of a happy ending. I'm starting to get really excited and talk more about 'when the baby comes . . .' and obviously freak out at the thought at the same time hence my last post! And I haven't even thought about the actual giving birth part yet (eek!) - will worry about that closer to the time! I have an exciting few weeks ahead which I am hoping will make the time go by faster. I am going to a Bon Jovi concert in two weeks time which I can't wait for and then of course Christmas is starting to sneak up on us. I just want the holidays so I can sleep! I'm sooooo tired at the moment, sleep sounds like a great plan for my holiday break (although pretty boring!). I also have my 12 week scan booked in for the 17th December so less than a month away. Plus all those Christmas parties (minus the cocktails of course). Bring it on and let the time fly by!
Saturday, November 20, 2010
FREAK OUT
The night of the scan I had a mini breakdown. I cried for about an hour and laughed inbetween (I think I was perhaps going slightly hysterical). The HG annoyed me so I locked him out of the house for about 2 minutes before I let him back in - he was highly amused and laughed at me as I threatened to deck him with the frying pan. So what started it? First of all I was feeling sad that my mum wasn't here to enjoy this with me. She would have been so very excited to become a grandmother and after such an exciting day and one filled with great relief to hear a heartbeat I was feeling emotional that she wasn't here to share it.
So that's what started it. Then I just started getting overly emotional for no reason (pregnancy hormones maybe?!) and bawled and said to the HG that I had no idea what to do with a baby. I had a major freak out. I may have been TRYING to get pregnant all these years but I never thought BEYOND the getting pregnant part. And after seeing the heartbeat I had a 'Oh my god, we're having a baby! I don't know how to raise a baby - do you?' (this directed at the HG) moment. He was like 'Well, we raised a lab and a cat and they turned out ok (both of whom were staring up at us with hungry eyes awaiting a feed and wondering what the hell all the fuss was about) Um, I don't think a cat and a dog are quite the same thing as a baby, dear husband! Anyway, I eventually calmed down and blamed the pregnancy hormones for my outburst but truly - I have NO IDEA what to do with a baby!
I'm sure this freak out will be just the first of many!
Thursday, November 18, 2010
OUR FIRST SCAN
We have one healthy baby with a flickering heartbeat, measuring 7w2d and tucked up in a very healthy spot! We didn't get to hear the heart beat but we saw it flickering away. I have attached a photo of the scan (not that you can see much at this stage, although I can see the family resemblance . . .)
OMG - we're really going to have a baby!
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
ONE MORE SLEEP!
Thanks for all your well wishes and reassurances! I am going to stop letting those negative thoughts in my head and replace them with excitement and happy thoughts for a good outcome tomorrow. We will hear out little babies heartbeat and it will be magical. I have been waiting three years for this moment and I am determined not to let fear ruin it for me.
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