tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347464733373565708.post7185859282684266064..comments2023-04-11T02:55:05.229+12:00Comments on MAYBE BABY . . . (or maybe the loony bin?): ANXIOUSHaideehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17388186444189056961noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347464733373565708.post-23481827687102422402010-09-11T13:04:49.430+12:002010-09-11T13:04:49.430+12:00Your blog is beautiful! I think these types of hu...Your blog is beautiful! I think these types of husband-wife conflicts (like about the drinking and level of sacrifice involved) are very common, so don't despair! Hang in there and best of luck with your cycle!Lisa Rouff, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08061785161706265766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347464733373565708.post-78828539789318528812010-09-11T12:22:07.879+12:002010-09-11T12:22:07.879+12:00Oh Haidee darling girl. It is so normal to feel th...Oh Haidee darling girl. It is so normal to feel that anxiety. Once that IVF ball rolls on it is you that is doing anything and sometimes they just feel that they can cruise through. There is supposedly nothing wrong with me but I have cut out alcohol and doing everything I can so why can't they? You have a right to be pissed but make sure when you tell him that it doesn't come off confrontational otherwise it goes down like a bag of dog poo. Big hugs honey. Maintain that lovely state you have been in. xxxxxChonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11078580707826544482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347464733373565708.post-17495377620526617072010-09-11T08:26:19.404+12:002010-09-11T08:26:19.404+12:00You are not overreacting!!! I always feel the sam...You are not overreacting!!! I always feel the same way with my hubby. He doesn’t seem to think it will affect the outcome but it's always on the back of my mind. We are taking three months off to hopefully help his sperm quality. I am praying that he takes it serious or else I think I might always blame him if it doesn't work. Try to talk to your hubby and let him know how you feel to help alleviate your stress! That is the last thing you need…Do I Have to Be a D.I.N.K.?https://www.blogger.com/profile/13930605269034903186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347464733373565708.post-54539863488597379492010-09-11T07:54:28.601+12:002010-09-11T07:54:28.601+12:00Hey hon,
You have every right to be worried and up...Hey hon,<br />You have every right to be worried and upset, I would be too!You can't help but want everything to go well and to DO everything you can to get there. BUT...seeing as it's done and you can't change it, take a big breath and keep going chick because I think it's more important that you are feeling stressfree and not anxious, and as you pointed out it it probably wont actually make a difference!In fact maybe it's what he needed to do to have a little blowout and now you can both 100% focus on whats coming up! Jane xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347464733373565708.post-6742937641436852562010-09-11T05:01:54.403+12:002010-09-11T05:01:54.403+12:00I don't think you're overreacting because ...I don't think you're overreacting because this process does sometimes feel one-sided--in that the woman is usually stuck with the meds and all their effects. I have been so jealous of my husband because he can still run and workout while I "take it easy". But, I try to remind myself that he would take on treatment any day if he could. He would ensure 100 shots a day if it meant that I wouldn't have to. Men are in a tough position with all of this and they handle it very differently than we do.Carmenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16359155211826702864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347464733373565708.post-58215222506311633512010-09-10T23:43:28.840+12:002010-09-10T23:43:28.840+12:00Definitely not overreacting babe...I'd be the ...Definitely not overreacting babe...I'd be the same. Wait, I was the same, haha! Though different for me as our problem was sperm related (as you know), so I guess it didn't take much convincing to get him to abstain from drinking. Does he know just how much it upsets you that he isn't trying to stop drinking when you are putting yourself through so much to have a baby? Maybe he doesn't realise the extent to which it hurts you, I don't know. It really shouldn't matter whose specific fertility issue it is anyway...you're in this together, so it's "our" problem, not "my" problem (I know you know that too)! So don't beat yourself up about it. I'd just gently let him know (when he's sober) that it has really hurt your feelings that he didn't limit his drinking, and that, ideally, you'd actually like him to stop while you're doing IVF, if not for healthy sperm, then at least in solidarity with you!<br />Hugs babe. It's a tough one. Us girls have to do all the yucky bits, and we put on such a brave face while doing it that sometimes our men don't realise that it actually is hard work for us and we need their support.<br />Hope you find that calmness again! Mwah. xoxoxoAlihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10031604610383786151noreply@blogger.com